It’s Just a Bad Day, Not a Bad Life

Let’s be real – some days suck. Your coffee spills, you hit every red light, and you stub your toe (which is equally annoying and painful) as you’re walking out the door. By the end of the day all you want to do is curl up in a burrito of blankets and forget about the world. You go to sleep, you wake up, and it’s a new day – a good day.

Or maybe not. Maybe you’re in a dark spot right now. Maybe these days have been happening one after another for years and years now. Thing like depression, anxiety, and fear have taken over your life. I’ve been there, I’ve done that. And let me tell you, it’s exhausting. Sometimes I still find myself in that dark place and if there’s one thing that has helped me get out of it, it’s this little quote:

“It’s just a bad day, not a bad life.”

You were expecting something a little more profound, huh? Well sorry to disappoint, but it’s as simple as that! Bad days are inevitable and it’s easy to let them steal your joy, but we can’t go around focusing on the bad. Yes, you might have a coffee stain on your shirt and you were late to work and you have a bruise on your toe, but that doesn’t mean tomorrow will be like that. Or the next day or the next. Because you know what’s also inevitable? GOOD DAYS! And these are the days we need to remember.

So here’s a little challenge for you: on your next bad day (which isn’t for awhile, I hope) I want you to fight the urge to focus on the negative and instead, remind yourself of all the positives in your life. You are alive, you are loved, you are important. You have made it through many bad days so far and chances are, you’ll make it through this one. Something I like to do when I’m sad is look through pictures of times when I was happy – truly, wholeheartedly happy. And not only look through these pictures, but realize that I’m going to feel that way again. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but one day I will. After all, it’s just a bad day not a bad life, right?

P.S. Here’s a little video I made to watch when I’m feeling down! It’s entitled “Tate’s Happy Moments” and well…I think the title speaks for itself!

NZEN2346 from Tatum on Vimeo.

I encourage you to make one of these videos for yourself to watch on days that aren’t so great! These are the moments we live for. Cheers to more and more of them!







Who are YOU?

“Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?”

Sounds like an average inspirational quote that someone would caption their Instagram selfie with, right? That’s what I first thought when I read it, but do me a favor: read it again, and I mean, really read it.

This quote is full of POWER. In only a few short words, it captures a topic that I think we all struggle with at one point or another: our identity.

Websters dictionary defines identity as “the distinguishing character or personality of an individual”. There’s one word in that definition that particularly stands out to me; did you catch it too? Distinguishing. What sets YOU apart from everyone else? When people think of you, what is the one word that comes to mind?

I was very curious about this so I did a little experiment and asked my friends, family, and followers on social media this exact question. A few of my answers?

Strong. Godly. Resilient. Positive. Radiant. Adventurous. And the word I got most…drumroll please…sunshine!

Now don’t get me wrong, my point in this is not to brag about myself in any way. I am a happy person but life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. I’d like to say that I walk around throwing glitter everywhere and singing angelic melodies, but that’s just not how it is sometimes. I get angry, I get sad, I get disappointed. But my identity? Who I am deep inside? I think my answers speak for that.

Now back to the quote! We live in a world where we are constantly being told who we should be, what we should wear, how we should act. The problem with this is that the world tells us that we should all be the same. Girls are skinny, boys are muscular, you get good grades and have nice teeth. You go to college, get married, have three kids and live in a house with a white picket fence. Sounds pretty boring, don’t ya think? We would all be robots; exact replications of each other. No diversity, no uniqueness, no differences. And now my point, no sense of identity.

So what is YOUR identity? Who are YOU deep inside? Forget who your friends want you to be or who your parents expect you to be, who are YOU? It’s a scary question, isn’t it? It requires us to dig down deep inside and examine the core of who we are. But let me tell you something, whoever that person is, he or she is amazing. Irreplaceable. One in a million.

I lied. ONE IN 7 MILLION! There are 7 million people on this planet and not one of us is the same. So, why do we all try to be?  You like rock music? Sweet. Your favorite color is black? Awesome. You’re loud? Quiet? Opinionated? Sensitive? Have a quirky sense of humor? THAT’S FANTASTIC. And it’s what makes you…well, YOU.

Find an old picture of yourself when you were a kid. Yes, the kind taken with an actual camera. It may be faded or torn or stuffed somewhere under your bed but drag that baby out. Now look at that face. Pure innocence. There’s something so beautiful about looking at childhood pictures because that’s who you really are when it comes down to it. That’s you before the world told you who you should be. I’m looking at my picture right now and I see a freckly faced, toothless little girl who isn’t scared of anything. I see a Christ follower, a daughter, a friend. I see an overcomer, a dreamer, a listener. I see someone who is strong and someone who is not afraid to be herself. I see me. Now it’s your turn. Look at your picture. Do you remember that person? Are you still that person? Find them, accept them, love them. That’s you. And you, my friend, are amazing.

XOXO Tate ❤