Positive Affirmations

Hey friends! I hope you are having an awesome day. I started mine off with a cup of coffee, a meditative walk, and a podcast I am OBSESSED with called Finding Body Freedom. My plans for today are to eat some yummy food, catch some rays in the pool, and hit up a yoga class tonight. Ahhh don’t ya just love summer?

So today I wanted to talk to you guys about something that has been SO helpful in my life/recovery. Something that I practice each and every day, and something that consistently reminds me who I am and where I’m going. Drum roll pleaseeeeee….

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

Positive affirmations are basically positive statements that you tell yourself over and over until you finally start to believe them. The important thing about positive affirmations is speaking as if what you WANT to happen is ALREADY happening. For example:

If you’re struggling with anxiety, instead of hoping that one day you will be brave enough to do xyz…your positive affirmation would be:

I am brave. Today I am brave. I am brave right now.

Get it? So you’re constantly speaking in the present tense, speaking the life and truth that you want for yourself.

There are simple affirmations…

  • I am strong.
  • I can do this.
  • I have a purpose.

…and more specific affirmations to match your current situation/struggle. Here are a few of my favorite affirmations that have helped me tremendously in my eating disorder recovery:

  • I am not more valuable if I take up less space.
  • I am MORE than my body.
  • I am a SOUL with a body, NOT a body with a soul.
  • My appearance, weight, etc does not determine my value.

I know at first this may sound a little cheesy and overly-positive but I am telling you, it works. It really does. If you’re new to this, maybe just start out saying a simple affirmation once a day. Anyone can do that, right? Once you start seeing the impact of that affirmation (and you will), increase the amount of times you say it and HOW you say it. One of the coolest ways I’ve learned how to say affirmations is to stand in front of the mirror, look yourself  in the eye, and speak your truth. At first, this is hard. Very hard. But the more you do it, the easier it gets and the more you start to believe it. Looking in the mirror every day and telling myself “I am beautiful” has completely changed things for me. Try it for yourself.

Last year, I was in an IOP (intensive outpatient program) where we did this really neat positive affirmation practice. The leader of the group started out by telling us all to go outside, look around, and write about something we thought was beautiful. People wrote about the flowers and the grass, the tall buildings and the butterflies. As for me? I wrote about the sky, of course. (Those who know me know about my weird obsession with the sky). As someone who loves to write and loves the sky, I was all over this. I wrote about how it was open and expansive, beautiful and calming. I wrote and wrote and wrote until the leader called us back in the room.

Once we were inside, she told us all to read what we had written. But then, she pulled a trick on us. Whatever we had written about, we had to cross out that word (“sky”) and put the word “I” instead. Then we had to read it out loud. Mine sounded a little something like this:

“I am open. I am expansive. I am beautiful. I am calm.”

And it went on and on and on. This was such a powerful experience and one that I will never forget. If God spent so much time making a beautiful sky and flowers for us to enjoy, just imagine how much more time he spent on us. His people, his humans, his children. His greatest accomplishment and most prized possession.

How funny it is that it’s so easy to see the beauty in His creation, but so hard to see the beauty in ourselves. 

So I know this is more of an extreme example, but learning to view myself in a positive light, an empowered light has changed everything. And know that it’s okay to say affirmations that you may not believe at first. This is TOTALLY normal. When I first started saying “I am brave”, I did not believe it at all. I was at a point where I was crippled with anxiety and tied down by my fears. I was the opposite of brave. But day after day, I filled myself with that truth:

Scared to go on a first date? “I am brave.” And look, now I have Chris ❤

Scared to go to school? “I am brave.” And now I have a degree.

Scared to go to yoga training? “I am brave.” And I completed my first weekend of training. Sore as frick, but I did it.

Trust me, you are these things. You are brave, you are beautiful, you are capable. Your sneaky little mind is the only thing keeping you from believing the truth. Fight against it, would you? Tell your brain to shut up. Tell your brain to quiet down. And tell yourself that YOU are in control, YOU have the power inside of you, and YOU will fulfill the affirmations you set for yourself if only you give it a try.

Love you all!

Tate

Random Thoughts + Life Update + Rambling

Hi guys! Sooo I usually don’t do posts like this, but I thought it might be a good idea to give ya’ll a little glimpse into my life because THINGS ARE CHANGINGGG (and I’m trying not to freak out about it. Yo girl happens to be a bit of a creature of habit) but for the most part, all good changes. Exciting exciting exciting!

So if you follow me on Insta (tatum_morton) you might have seen my post a few days ago about how I’m starting my yoga teacher training next week and guys, I am PUMPED. Like I’ve never been so excited for something in my whole life. It’s kinda funny because when I started yoga a few years ago, everyone thought it would be just a little phase that I would grow out of. But the more I practiced, the more I fell in love with it and knew it was supposed be a big part in my life. Hence, yoga teacher training. I’m feeling allllll da feels: excited, nervous, anxious, ready to meet people, ready to try something new but mostly…excited. I can’t wait to find people who are into this whole health and wellness lifestyle that I am SO passionate about. I don’t feel like I’ve met my tribe of people yet, so I hope this experience will introduce me to some of my tribe members!

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I have biiiiig dreams for this yoga thing and I feel like this training is the first step. Eventually, I would love love love to teach yoga at an eating disorder treatment center. As some of you know, treatment was the first place I  got introduced to yoga. At first, I was not super down for it and had the “yoga is stretching” mentality. But once I got more and more into yoga, I realized that yes…some of it is stretching, but the other part is a kickass workout. And the BEST part, is the spiritual part of it. Guys, I am telling you…yoga has changed my life. The way I view the world, view myself, treat others, has completelyyyy changed since I started practicing. Oh and for someone who severely struggles with anxiety, learning about BREATHING has been a complete game changer. The fact that I have all that I need inside of me (breath, Jesus, power, peace, blah blah blah) has really helped lower my anxious and never-ending thoughts. Praise the Lord. And the yoga mat.

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Nexttttt….MY BROTHER GOT MARRIEDAnd I’m not just saying this because he’s my brother, but it was the BEST wedding I’ve ever been to. Beautiful, personal, and tons and tons of fun (maybe the alcohol had something to do with that?) I keep joking that it was the best night of my life and it wasn’t even my wedding lol. I think what made it so special is because of the relationship I have with Ty and Ry. To be completely honest, Rylee is the sister I’ve always wanted but never had. And trust me, we are sisters, complete with clothes sharing and bickering and all the stuff that sisters do. I’ve never been super close to my brother, which makes me sad, but I truly feel that Rylee has helped me and my brother get closer. I must admit, he is a prettyyy cool guy and I’m proud to call him my brother. It has been the coolest experience to watch them fall in love and finally take that step towards marriage. I was an emotional wreck the day of the wedding (imagine that lol) but it really was such a special night. I got the honor of making a lot of decorations for it so that was a fun way to be involved. If you need any wedding decos, hit meeee up. But yes, overall it was a spectacular night. Oh and I can’t forget to mention that I caught the bouquet! I mean, I do have a bit of the Morton competitiveness streak in me 😉 My Dad immediately ran up screaming “NO NO NO” and my boyfriend stood in the corner, terrified. Good times, good times :’)

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Hmm…what to talk about next?! This is kinda vague but I feel like God is about to do some big things in my life. I don’t even know how to explain it, but I’ve been feeling the need for change, for movement, for transition. I’ve always wanted to travel and that urge is getting stronger and stronger by the day. I would love to go on a mission trip or a internship abroad or something like that. I just feel like this world is so big, so why shouldn’t we explore it?! Why shouldn’t we travel and spread The Word and love people and do things and have those experiences to look back on. I feel like I’ve spent these past few years of my life doing a lot of internal work with my recovery and all that. And you know what? I’m kinda done with that period of my life. That work had to be done and it was and now I know who I am and I’m on the path of recovery and I wanna LIVE. Go places! Meet people! Try new things! Eat new foods (God, I have waited SO long to not be scared of that) and LIVE MY LIFE.

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One more thing I wanted to touch on was the power of intention setting, manifestation, the law of attraction and all that good stuff. Your reality is a product of your thoughts. Think good things, good things will happen. Put out good vibes, receive good vibes. I know that sounds very yoga and woowoo to a lot of you, but I’m telling you, this stuff works. I write intentions like no other and practice meditation each and every day. So I urge you to write it out. Write what you want your life to look like in one year, two years, five years. What kind of person do you want to be? Where do you want to live? Make a dream board! Ahhh, these are my favorite things ever. So fun to make and even funner (not a word, I know) to watch come to life. A lot of what is happening right now are things that I have jotted down in my journal months ago. Like no joke, specific things have happened that I never would’ve dreamed could happen. Dream big, my friends. Dream big.

And that’s all I have for you today! Sorry if that was boring and kinda all over the place but that’s how I roll. I feel like I’m finally at a good spot in my life: confident in who I am, determined to reach my goals, and open to new experiences and new people coming into my life. This life really is such a beautiful thing. A crazy, complicated makes you wanna chop your head off thing….but a beautiful one as well. Grateful grateful grateful.

Have a wonderful day my little lovebugs!

Tate ❤